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#39 list ten physical attributes you desire in a mate

31 Jan

So this is the first strategy under chapter 3 “attract and build happy relationships.” As tomorrow is already February- lets celebrate the month of love (hahaha). That wonderful holiday Valentines Day is upon us soon. As one of my students shouted out in class today, “oohhh I better get my girl something soon!” Yes Ricky, you better. Later on in class, one of my girls asked me if I had a boyfriend and when I said no, she told me I was lying (I’m not). So anyway, I chose this as today’s way to get happy because it will probably be funny + it reminds me of my youth when I made very, very, very specific requirements as to how my future boyfriends would be.  Also, the author notes that “law of attraction experts say that when you know exactly what you want, it is easier to attract it.” I just find it rather humorous that there are actual law of attraction experts 🙂

As I am thinking in my head, it’s hard to come up with 10 physical attributes, so I am just going to list 10 overall attributes. I don’t think I have a type per se…and any of the boys whom I have ever reallly reallly liked (can be counted on one hand, with not all fingers used)  are pretty different: both in looks, personalities, and actions. So anyway, here goes! 🙂

1. in some sort of good shape: skinny or muscular is best. Please just don’t have gross veins that pop out because you are too muscley ( is that a word?). Just have nice muscular arms I can hold onto.

2. contagious smile

3. caring attitude: you care  about me, yourself, and others (whether you know them or not)

4. manners: you best be holding the door open for me and blessing me if I sneeze.

5. understanding: sometimes I am a little irrational while driving or cooking.

6. smart: just know what’s going on in the world and have an opinion on it

7. driven: have some goals, whether attainable now or in the future, and have a plan to get there thanks.

8. trustworthy: pleaseeee do not lie to me about anything and hold no secrets back. be upfront from the get-go. I will be accepting more than likely…believe me.

9. happy: not like obnoxious happy, but just have a happy, content outlook on life. no negativeness.   🙂

10. height: sorry dudes, you gotta be at least 5’6”. Any shorter? No go…I can’t do it.

I don’t think I’m unreasonable in my desired attributes. However, while it was fun to make this, I think any list above ten gets a bit dramatic and you could be missing out on someone for some silly reason (no matter what wearing Ed Hardy will always be a legit reason not to date someone in my book though!). I also think that people can change (for better or worse) so as long as that is known, I think it is okay to veer a little from your list. Just remember though friends, love is blind….and some people just don’t change, no matter how much you want them to. Congrats if you already have a wonderful lover…and to all the singles in the world…good luck and God bless! 🙂

“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”

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Happy New Year

31 Dec

As it is the last day of 2010 (as well as my friend Megan’s birthday), I am refraining from a post about getting happy or doing good. Instead, lets reflect on this year, shall we?

2010 was probably one of the more turbulent of the 24 years I have been on this earth. So, here’s to hoping 2011 is not a repeat. 🙂

What follows are purely my opinions and recommendations for this year: music, movie, and memories (obviously my own). The ranking is in no particular order, just as they popped into my head.

MUSIC (singles + cds)

  1. Bruno Mars, Doo-woops and Hooligans: standout songs- “Grenade” and “The Other Side” (which features Cee-Lo and B.o.B.)
  2. Drake, So Far Gone & Thank Me Later : let’s be in agreement that Drake has been everywhere this past year and half. Favorite songs: “Show Me A Good Time”, “Houstatlantavegas” and “Fireworks” (with Alicia Keys)
  3. Rihanna, Loud: this girl got her thing on and recovered quite well from the publicized incident with C-breezy (Chris Brown).  Her cd is quite the grown-up tone (sex, drinking, killing a guy) but its catchy. Standouts: “Love the Way you Lie Pt. II”, “Fading”, and “Cheers (drink to that)”.
  4. Taylor Swift, Speak Now: If I could be friends with Taylor, I would be pretty happy. Plain and simple, I just think she is amazing. After Shay burned me this cd, it was in heavy rotation in my car and on my computer. It is hard to choose a couple songs but they are: “Long Live”, “Haunted”, and “Enchanted”.
  5. Glee Christmas cd: clear standout on here is “Baby, It’s Cold Outside”
  6. Diddy-Dirty Money and Skylar Grey, “Coming Home”. Absolutely love, love, love this song.
  7. Katy Perry, “Firework”. Just motivational and inspirational. 🙂
  8. Pink, “Glitter”. Pink is just amazing- whether  it is a ballady song or rock-esque song.

Movies:

  1. Toy Story 3 (plain and simple…its a classic)
  2. The Town (literally on the edge of my seat the entire time)
  3. The Social Network (funny, intense, dramatic…who knew facebook was so interesting?!)
  4. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows  (minus that odd Harry/Hermione scene)
  5. Valentines Day (super cheesy, yes, but also super cute)

Memories

2010 was exciting as I skiied for the first time (terrible), made two trips back to Pittsburgh, and went to a Pumpkin Patch in Las Vegas. 🙂 Below are some of my favorite images from the year.

*huge margs with Megs in Breckenridge

*at Daydream pool

…and lunch break from skiing

*spy on vegas night with some pals

…and back at home with some of my friends

*Elle and Laur came to visit. 

*My wonderful TFA Sped Cohort with the best PD ever…

Happy New Year! I hope you have a wonderful (safe) evening & that 2011 is a blessed, joyful, and fun year!

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.”
– Anne Frank

#21 attend at least one religious service this week

30 Dec

Yes, I did skip ahead. Todays way to be happy is in chapter 2. There are a total of 20 chapters in my book, so I am going to do 7 from each chapter and then move on. Chapter 2 is SEEK MEANING & PURPOSE TO HAVE A HAPPY LIFE.

Research has suggested that participating and belief in some sort of religious faith or spiritual tradition is vital for a purposeful, meaningful, happy life. The author, as I do too, recoginizes that some people do not have a specific faith. In this case, create some sort of ritual to do once a week on your own: read inspirational quotes, or maybe reflect upon your week and special things that happened.

I grew up with a church up the street. Then, I attended Saint Vincent College, which as you can imagine had a student chapel, in addition to the b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l Basilica. See it below.

I would say that in college,I generally attended mass at the student chapel once a week. This was especially true the second half of sophomore year, right up until graduation. We had one of the best priests: Fr. Brian Boosel. He was lively, friendly, and gave sermons that we as college students could understand and relate to. He always had a classic story he told at finals time (he slept through one of his finals freshmen year).

When I moved to Vegas, Shay and I went on adventures to find a church. We went to a terrible place in that there were flat screens, prayers omitted, and other I guess “modern” adjustments. Finally, we found St. Thomas More, which is great. The priests too tell jokes, make sermons interesting, plus the church community is great. There are several donations to kids and elderly (angel trees, back to school drives- which I blogged about earlier), pancake breakfasts (by the Mens Club…yum), and a Thanksgiving meal delivery program (which I also blogged about earlier).

So all in all, even though I don’t consider myself the most religious person, I like to attend mass. I find that when I do attend, I can clear my mind for an hour and feel apart of something that is bigger than me (in this case, God). I also find that when I am having stressful times, the readings and/or the songs are often applicable to my struggle in some way. Whatever your belief is, find something to do once a week….until tomorrow (New Years Eve! and my friend Megan’s birthday!)

My quote today comes from the Bible. It is from a reading that I first (and only) heard at SVC as a sophomore during the Lent season. The sentences resounded with me, and while I remembered part of it, I never heard the reading again. I always looked for it in the missilettes when Lent came around, but never found it again…until this past Christmas Eve. I was looking ahead and found the reading passage. I was so happy.  So here it is 🙂

“Now while he was in Jerusalem at the Passover Festival, many people saw the signs he was performing and believed in his name. But Jesus would not entrust himself to them, for he knew all people.  He did not need any testimony about mankind, for he knew what was in each person.”

– John 2: 23-25

#6 cultivate hope when disaster hits

28 Dec

The disaster above is a picture from the earthquake from last year in Haiti

Hope being cultivated by Red Cross volunteers 🙂

Hope is defined as: the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best (noun) or to believe, desire, or trust (verb). We have all lived through some sort of disaster or tough situation. When a disaster such as Hurricane Katrina or the oil spill or the earthquake in Haiti occurs, the better parts of humanity shine through. People band together and create hope: hope that there are more survivors than thought, hope that they can make a difference. With these disasters, hope is cultivated through volunteers, donations, and prayers.

Thankfully, such disasters are not as prevelant as our own personal disasters are. A lot of times it is easy simply to give up and cave in to the feelings of despair, anger, and frustration. However, we all know that those feelings aren’t beneficial and do not alleviate the situation. In these situations, it is easy to think “why me” and/or “great something else goes wrong in my life”- I know I have done that… but it’s best to hope for the best of the situation… Maybe that minor car accident can lead to you getting a new paint job on your car- or overdrawing your bank account will allow you to really assess where you are spending your money! Like the age old mantra “everything happens for a reason”- even though that is sometimes annoying to think or have other people tell you, I truly think it is true.

“What seems to us are bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.”

-Oscar Wilde

#4 change one of your faults

19 Dec

No one is perfect right? Hopefully you are in agreement with me. While it is easy to recognize that first statement is true, it is often much harder to recognize that we ourselves have faults. Even moreso, it is even harder to begin and sustain change with these faults…at least in my opinion.

I think one of my faults is that I sometimes have a quick temper. This is especially true when I am driving. Sometimes this happens with certain kids too, and when it does, I always end up feeling bad about it after. I have been trying to be more patient all around and to be honest, it has taken a lot of stress out of my life. Which has been wonderful 🙂 Another fault is that I try to please everyone all the time- at first one may not think it is a fault, but really it causes one to be overburdened, burnt out, tired, and stressed. Not fun. So one thing I need to practice is saying “No” and planning my time better.

Maybe you don’t have a quick temper or a pleasing personality- maybe you gossip, procrastinate, or blame others. Whatever it is, be honest with yourself…even if you know you aren’t going to like hearing it. If you have a great relationship with someone, you can always ask them too. Whatever you want to change, do it. See the good in you and see the good in others.

“Insist on yourself. Never imitate.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

#436 volunteer with meals on wheels

26 Nov

“what is the ultimate purpose of life?”

-“to give…start giving.”

Those words were stated by Narayanan Krishnan. Never heard of him? I never had either, until this morning as  I was watching CNN Heroes: Tribute. Krishnan is one of the ten heroes being honored by CNN. He was a chef at a five star hotel in India, who in 2002 quit his job so that he could feed, bathe, shave, and love the homeless, mentally ill, and elderly who are left on the streets uncared for. His story made me cry, as have all the other AMAZING heroes. Please, please, please check them out and get inspired! http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/21/cnnheroes.hero.of.year/?hpt=C2 Read about them there…and if you are able to catch a rerun of this tribute….please do!

I haven’t posted for awhile and I apologize. I had been busy, and tired! But the holidays have rejuvanted me to stay on top of my blogging. Yesterday, I had the opportunity to deliver a Thanksgiving meal to a homebound person. I also did this my first Thanksgiving in Vegas thanks to my church, St. Thomas More. After a nice breakfast and mass, I stood in line to get my meals. The meals consisted of two large turkey slices, stuffing, potatoes, gravy, cranberries, green beans, pumpkin pie, a bottle of lemonade, a roll, AND a prayer card with a decorative turkey. I was delivering two meals to a Ms. Nellie Rae. When I arrived, I found a quaint home…decorated so that it was clear that they were big fans of hunting and the outdoors. I also found two friendly dogs and Nellie. Nellie is bound to her hospital bed. She layed in her big bed, which was positioned in the living room, so she can watch tv. She was grateful to see me and to have a hot meal. I didn’t stay after I dropped the meal off, but she thanked me profusely for dropping the meal off and stopping by. It was a reminder of how LUCKY I am to still be relatively healthy (hernia and gastritis aside).

I hope everyone had a blessed Thanksgiving and they realize how truly lucky they are to be alive. Please check out the CNN heroes. Think about how you can give…the holiday season is the “recognized” time of giving: Angel Trees, volunteering, donations, anything. Until tomorrow….

“To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”
~~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

#304 part II: domestic violence awareness

9 Oct

Teen Mom is a good show. No matter what anyone says, I like it.  It’s real because it deals with actual real life situations that everyday people would face: not necessarily being a teen (or young) mom BUT relationships. Not just couples but the dynamics among families and friends. 

If you have ever seen the show, or even a preview, there is a girl named Amber and her sometimes-boyfriend Gary. Amber is usually flying off the handle, screaming and/or hitting Gary. On the episodes when this happens, MTV puts up a little PSA about domestic violence and asks you to check out a website (www.loveisrespect.org) .

Coming out of a relationship that became abusive at points, I really felt for Gary and I really wanted to check out the website. When I looked at it, I was surprised to find that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month- that’s another cause the NFL should be supporting this month and raising awareness. Remember domestic violence is not always physical- it can be emotional/verbal, and/or sexual. It tends to be a taboo issue, especially if the male is experiencing the abuse. Raise awareness for yourself and then educate your friends and family. Don’t be afraid to speak up- your friend will appreciate it. Promise. Until tomorrow…

“”Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”
-St. Augustine