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#5 don’t harbor a grudge

25 Dec

grudge: a feeling of illwill or resentment

I would think it’s safe to say that at one point in our lives we have held a grudge against someone…I know I have. Grudges can be held for as short as a few hours, or sadly, can last lifetimes. As today is Christmas (FELIZ NAVIDAD), let go of illwill, anger, resentment, and hostility. What benefit is there to you for harboring these feelings? It will only continue to hurt you mentally, emotionally, and eventually physically too. Who wants that? 

Recognize your feelings and recognize whom they are too…apologize and let it be. You will feel much better, believe me. Or, if you can’t apologize (i.e. you weren’t in the wrong), find a book that relates to you. There are tons of books in the self-help section at a bookstore! Everything from relationships to anger issues to happiness. It’s wonderful to peruse every now and then. 🙂

As it is the holiday season, I hope everyone has had a blessed season thus far.  I have been blessed with two wonderful “material” gifts: a Rachel Ray subscription + a nice digital camera (thanks Mom), but even moreso, I have been blessed to spend time with my friends and family. I hadn’t seen several of my friends for over two years (including my brother Brian) and have had the opportunities to already see them. Until next time! 🙂

“Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas.”

–Calvin Coolidge–

#4 change one of your faults

19 Dec

No one is perfect right? Hopefully you are in agreement with me. While it is easy to recognize that first statement is true, it is often much harder to recognize that we ourselves have faults. Even moreso, it is even harder to begin and sustain change with these faults…at least in my opinion.

I think one of my faults is that I sometimes have a quick temper. This is especially true when I am driving. Sometimes this happens with certain kids too, and when it does, I always end up feeling bad about it after. I have been trying to be more patient all around and to be honest, it has taken a lot of stress out of my life. Which has been wonderful 🙂 Another fault is that I try to please everyone all the time- at first one may not think it is a fault, but really it causes one to be overburdened, burnt out, tired, and stressed. Not fun. So one thing I need to practice is saying “No” and planning my time better.

Maybe you don’t have a quick temper or a pleasing personality- maybe you gossip, procrastinate, or blame others. Whatever it is, be honest with yourself…even if you know you aren’t going to like hearing it. If you have a great relationship with someone, you can always ask them too. Whatever you want to change, do it. See the good in you and see the good in others.

“Insist on yourself. Never imitate.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

#286 donate blood

19 Oct

There is a slight discrepency here in my deed today. In high school, I donated blood whenever I could. Mainly to get out of class, but because I knew it was a good thing to do as well.

In college there was a blood drive. I figured I would do it. I went and had a bad experience. First, it took forever to get to me because they were training like 10 new people. Then, once my name was finally called, the newbie couldn’t get the needle in my vein. It took about 6 pokes and prods before they finally got the needle on. Of course, my vein stopped pumping blood (not sure how normal that is) and as it turned it…they couldn’t even USE my blood because the bag was only half-full! AHHHH!!!

To top of the experience, my new blood card said a different type of blood than my card I got in high-school. To this day, my blood type is a mystery!! A so-called flaw (one may say) of my personality is that once I have a bad experience with one thing, its’ over. For instance hot dogs, chinese food, vitamins, cooking…I have had a negative experience with each of those things and have been negatively affected ever since then. Donating blood is the same thing.

This is unfortunate because I know I should give blood. But, I just can’t. So, instead of me actively promoting this…take it as a suggestion. I know it is important, so if you are able to- do it! Otherwise, just go do another good deed (i.e. tell someone you care about them, as I did several times today, even though I think it went in one ear and out another!) Until tomorrow…

“When it hurts to look back, and you’re scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there.” 🙂

#304 part II: domestic violence awareness

9 Oct

Teen Mom is a good show. No matter what anyone says, I like it.  It’s real because it deals with actual real life situations that everyday people would face: not necessarily being a teen (or young) mom BUT relationships. Not just couples but the dynamics among families and friends. 

If you have ever seen the show, or even a preview, there is a girl named Amber and her sometimes-boyfriend Gary. Amber is usually flying off the handle, screaming and/or hitting Gary. On the episodes when this happens, MTV puts up a little PSA about domestic violence and asks you to check out a website (www.loveisrespect.org) .

Coming out of a relationship that became abusive at points, I really felt for Gary and I really wanted to check out the website. When I looked at it, I was surprised to find that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month- that’s another cause the NFL should be supporting this month and raising awareness. Remember domestic violence is not always physical- it can be emotional/verbal, and/or sexual. It tends to be a taboo issue, especially if the male is experiencing the abuse. Raise awareness for yourself and then educate your friends and family. Don’t be afraid to speak up- your friend will appreciate it. Promise. Until tomorrow…

“”Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”
-St. Augustine

#649 build a support network

29 Sep

The past few weeks have been pretty rough. I’ve been pretty tired, stressed, and exhasuted from the multitude of things going on. A lot of different things have been occupying my mind: my ex-Jose, my former student Tony who was shot, bills, tutoring geometry on the fly, plus not to mention everything going on at school.

Luckily for me, I have a great support network. I have amazing friends and family who support me through everything! 🙂 It’s important that everyone have at least one person they can call when times are rough- or even when times are going good! Even the strongest person in the world needs a support network. Today my mom surprised me with a card, jellybeans, and jewelry package in the mail. It really made my day and put a smile on my face- thanks Mom!  

Make a list of the first five people you would call with a problem and thank them- maybe a little personal note or email.

Then, make a list of five more people you would call and thank them- maybe a phone call or text.

It’s nice to have a support system- and at the same time, it’s nice to feel appreciated! Until tomorrow…

“”A friend is one who walks in when others walk out”
-Walter Winchell

#912 be appreciative

21 Sep

appreciation (noun): gratitude, thankful recognition

10 Things I appreciate (in no particular order):

1. being able to read books and magazines at Borders, with never having to actually buy something.

2. thunderstorms and the subsequent smell of rain (especially in Vegas when it’s so far and few between)

3. the love and support of my friends and family

4. a good book

5. pens that write nicely/sharpies

6. the excitement that comes with football season (STEELERS)

7. the fact that all my hard work and dedication have paid off

8. good manners

9. the sheer joy that little kids have in life and their surroundings

10. you, for reading my blog! 🙂

What do you appreciate? It’s good to think back and count our blessings. The quote I found below is really true; think about it! Until tomorrow…

“We have no right to ask when a sorrow comes, ‘Why did this happen to me?’ unless we ask the same question for every joy that comes our way.”

-Anonymous

#663 stimulate your brain

21 Aug

There are numerous studies that say by keeping your brain active you can help fight off dementia. The author suggests stimulating your brain when in the company of your friends by doing exercises like thinking of opposites or simple math. I like those ideas and am going to list some more (which can be done alone or with friends):

  • watching game shows on tv: wheel of fortune, jeopardy, smarter than a fifth grader, who wants to be a millionaire, etc…
  • crossword and sudoku puzzles: found in your newspaper, online, or specific books
  • board games: LOVE board games. Particularly clue, scattergories, and uno!
  • read: the other week i posted about reading your local newspaper regularly. stimulate your brain by reading a paper, a magazine (my guilty pleasures are glamour and everyday with rachel ray), or a book (I’m reading so many right now, its crazy…and by reading I mean starting books and not finishing)
  • documentaries: even while watching documentaries or informative movies you can stimulate your mind by engaging in the information being presented to you

The great thing is that all of these activities can be enjoyed anywhere: on the plane, at the pool/beach, on the bus, during commercial breaks while watching tv! Until tomorrow…